JustHatched 12,103 Posted November 29, 2014 Share Posted November 29, 2014 FOund out my ex has moved a registered sex offender in with her. 2 of my daughters live there also. My brain is jumbled with what the correct move is next. I have been waiting for te chance to get my kids, just not sure the best way to do it. Lawyer? Family sevices? 9MM? Needless to say I may not be in the best of moods for a bit, if I am quiet on the mic its cuz I am just playing to think of other things so I don't drive myself batshit crazy. 1 Quote The funniest thing about this particular signature is that by the time you realise it doesn't say anything it's to late to stop reading it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Torrid 653 Posted November 29, 2014 Share Posted November 29, 2014 My inner irrational "let's get shit done" says grab the 9, but there are some obvious legal issues here that tells me it's time to get a court order through a lawyer. I would think it would be simple job to get a sex offender away from children, but I don't know what the time frame would be to get that accomplished. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rumdig 957 Posted November 29, 2014 Share Posted November 29, 2014 Oh damn. Was a lawyer used for the split? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScottyB 2,086 Posted November 29, 2014 Share Posted November 29, 2014 Wow that's a bad situation your in. I hope you can resolve it quickly and easily. If that was happening here is australia, I would go to family services who would then most likely take the kids away from her as she isn't provding a safe place for the children. It all depends on what the offender has done aswell. You could also talk to a lawyer to find out your best option for this. Family services can be a little slow and painful to deal with but its really the only legal way without getting yourself into too much trouble. Good luck with resolving this and try not to do anything to get yourself locked up. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rumdig 957 Posted November 29, 2014 Share Posted November 29, 2014 Hatch, I did a quick search to validate my initial thoughts. The majority of cases followed this similar rule: the court "shall not award custody or unsupervised visitation of a child to a parent if such parent or any person residing with such parent has been found guilty of, or plead guilty to" certain offenses (enumerated and referenced therein) when a child was the victim. I would say that a modification of the child custody could be made... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaggy 2,811 Posted November 29, 2014 Share Posted November 29, 2014 Call a lawyer, Hatch. I am so sorry you have to deal with this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
juve 192 Posted November 29, 2014 Share Posted November 29, 2014 i hope you'll find the best way to get the kids. good luck hatched. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SeymorScagneti 1,274 Posted November 29, 2014 Share Posted November 29, 2014 (edited) File emergency paperwork to get temporary full/sole custody, then file paperwork for permanent full/sole custody. Call child protective services and file a complaint against your ex. If you can afford it, lawyer up. Don't make any threats to the pervert or your ex...that shit could be used against you. Best of luck mane. Edited November 29, 2014 by SeymorScagneti 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mailbox_Bomber 182 Posted November 29, 2014 Share Posted November 29, 2014 Well your kins living with a sex offender will do you wonders in a family court, every response so far has had the right idea.. But for problems like this, a 9mm simply won't do against sex offenders. This is the job for a intermediate rifle cartridge! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fido_le_muet 5,197 Posted November 29, 2014 Share Posted November 29, 2014 This really sucks Hatch and I would be really scared as well. I don't know how the law is in the US but I think you should contact a lawyer, the police or family services ASAP to know what to do in such a situation. I think you should harass whoever can help you until things are in motion. But really you should aim for getting back full custody of your kids. Just keep the 9 in its box. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ronny 1,061 Posted November 29, 2014 Share Posted November 29, 2014 Sorry to hear that, that must be the scariest thing ever. Most is said so my advice would just be repeating the other's here. And I'm 100% sure that you know the 9mm would only make things worse. Hope you get the help you need and that it resolves quickly. I'm sorry you and your family has to go through such a thing. I wish I could help you out brother. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Casey 1,680 Posted November 29, 2014 Share Posted November 29, 2014 A registered sex offender is not necessarily a paedophile so don't stress too much until you know the facts. In this country a 16 year old who is convicted of having sex with their15 year old girlfriend or boyfriend for example becomes a registered sex offender for a very long time. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronin 596 Posted November 29, 2014 Share Posted November 29, 2014 Sorry to hear this Hatch ... Get legal advice on this one. Other 'methods' won't help and will only make things worse. Keep strong ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danielle 3,007 Posted November 29, 2014 Share Posted November 29, 2014 I'm reading about a similar case and I got this "Further, your living with your current boyfriend may be a basis for you ex husband to seek to modify the current custody situation under Section 610 of the IMDMA, subsection (a-5) which provides: "A motion to modify a custody judgment may be made at any time by a party who has been informed of the existence of facts requiring notice to be given under Section 609.5 [750 ILCS 5/609.5]." The court will then determine custody based upon the facts of your case, with the best interest of the child in mind. " I would phone family services or a lawyer and get some advice. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matty 745 Posted November 29, 2014 Share Posted November 29, 2014 Casey has made a valid point, you you need to discover the severity of his conviction. I know a guy who is registered for mooning out the window of his work van as he passed a bus stop. I think if your plan is to get custody, now is a the most opportune time to do it. First and only real step I see for you is, lawyer. I too hope this is resolved quickly for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zmurko 7,622 Posted November 29, 2014 Share Posted November 29, 2014 I wish you best of luck Hatch! And definitely get a lawyer, even if it's just for paperwork/forms at appropriate agencies/services. You don't want to get stuck in the process on some silly technicality. Quote S U N D A Y R A C I N G L E A G U E Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pb76 3,951 Posted November 29, 2014 Share Posted November 29, 2014 All these people talk a lot of sense, I can add nothing to what has already been said, but I hope it all turns out well for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustHatched 12,103 Posted November 30, 2014 Author Share Posted November 30, 2014 File emergency paperwork to get temporary full/sole custody, then file paperwork for permanent full/sole custody. ^^This, I didn't think of that, thanks for posting it. A registered sex offender is not necessarily a paedophile so don't stress too much until you know the facts. In this country a 16 year old who is convicted of having sex with their15 year old girlfriend or boyfriend for example becomes a registered sex offender for a very long time. And you may very well be correct, I confronted him with it, according to his story it was purely circumstantial as a teen several years ago at a party. Maybe he is telling the truth, maybe not. 3 Quote The funniest thing about this particular signature is that by the time you realise it doesn't say anything it's to late to stop reading it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustHatched 12,103 Posted November 30, 2014 Author Share Posted November 30, 2014 Oh yeah, just for those who don't know, Rose isn't the ex. We still hitched. 2 Quote The funniest thing about this particular signature is that by the time you realise it doesn't say anything it's to late to stop reading it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G37 3,444 Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 (edited) Oh yeah, just for those who don't know, Rose isn't the ex. We still hitched. Bless her soul (don't warn me or make me do any more news bot tests .. please ..) Edited November 30, 2014 by G37 Quote "If you ride like lightning, you're gonna crash like thunder." - The Place Between The Pines Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaggy 2,811 Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 Let's not get into a debate about what constitutes as a sex offender/pedophile. There are children involved and Hatch has every right to be concerned for the well-being of his children. Hatch's ex has the right to date whomever she pleases, but damn, let's think of the children involved. Those kid's don't even belong to me and I'm concerned for their safety and well-being. Hatch, are you able to look up this guy's history in the national sex offender registry? I've used that website many times just to check on people who live in/around this neighborhood. It goes into what the charges were. Use this website to see if his story matches up with what he told you... http://www.familywatchdog.us/ You can click on the tab that says "Name" and type it in. Also, still contact a lawyer and get your ducks in a row. Those babies need to get out of that house before something horrible happens. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wraignbow 719 Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 Some good advice here, I hope it goes well for you, Hatched. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Casey 1,680 Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 There was no debate, just stating facts 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G37 3,444 Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 (edited) Let's stay on point. I can see this conversation derailing very soon. There's a real life matter at hand here. We have members from all walks of life. Means multiple opinions and ideas and perspectives, each valuable and each adding new layers of thought to the conversation. Let's not try to undermine that and let's not take shots at one another (we're here to help one another), we've all made mistakes and that isn't to make light of anything discussed here either. Edited November 30, 2014 by G37 5 Quote "If you ride like lightning, you're gonna crash like thunder." - The Place Between The Pines Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DefaultBling 171 Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 Good luck and the best for you and your family Hatch. If you need, you know where to find us. 1 Quote @XDBXcrew Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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